I wouldn’t have
culled this from pchoco.com and risk my neck on the slaughter-slab of plagiarism, if it wasn’t true and, moreover, the truth is worth
sharing with a friend like you. Never mind, I could go all the way just for your
enjoyment. Is what I have below true about marriage and relationships? Please drop
your unreserved comments.
“
Age Is Just A Number: Maturity’s What
Really Matters in Relationships
“The heart wants what the heart wants” is
a cliché that couldn’t be more accurate. We truly can’t help with whom we fall
in love. Love doesn’t care if someone is older or younger, but we certainly do.
Society holds a negative stigma regarding
age differences, which causes people to obsess over it. And, that is why when
we start developing feelings for people outside of our age brackets, we think
our feelings are wrong.
We often put up walls and flee for the
mountains, but before shutting the door on the chance at love, think about your
potential lover’s maturity level.
If you both are on the same level of
maturity, don’t let the attached age number cloud your decision.
Maybe you met an older lover when you
were still immature. Each person we meet has a purpose in our life.
Maybe this person isn’t meant for you
during your years of evolution, but you’ll come back to each other when you
each hold the same mind-set. Or, maybe this person was in your life at the
wrong time to teach you something. Whatever the case, it may have happened for
a reason.
Maybe he’s 30 and you are 20, but he is
just as confused about his life as you are about yours. It might be scary
having a 10-year difference in age, but you both are experiencing similar
things in life. I don’t see why that number should stop the blossoming between
two lovebirds.
Of course, he has seen more days on this
Earth, but that doesn’t mean he understands where he stands in life more than
you do.
If you both want the same thing from the
relationship, then you have settled half the battle. Just like couples who are
the same age, if you aren’t on the same page, things will be just as difficult.
Not only does society judge dating outside
our ages, but it also expects that we all age and develop at the same rate.
Furthermore, it is expected that with age comes maturity, which isn’t true.
Maturity is something that develops after
experiences we face in life; you don’t just magically become mature on your
25th birthday. You can mature at a very young age, or maybe, you never truly
mature.
But, society makes us feel that if we
haven’t figured out ourselves by our mid-20s, we have lived and are continuing
to live incorrectly. The majority of us have future plans and hope to be at a
certain point by a certain age, but that isn’t always the reality of the
situation.
People always say, “Act your age.” We are
expected to leave our childish behaviours at our high school graduations and be
mature “adults.” That is not the case for everyone, though, because we are all
on our own, natural paths.
Experiences happen to people at different
times in life, causing some to grow up faster or slower than the norm. You can
be 24 years old with the mind-set of a 45-year-old or vice versa.
Though I’m not an expert in relationships
by any means, ultimately, leave all judgment behind when you find someone truly
special. No two people are the same, just like no two romances are the same.
Take each person as he or she comes.
I know lovers who are nine years apart
and just as happy as those who are two months apart in age. Don’t close
yourself off based on age, but take into consideration where people of
different ages are in their lives.
Just because someone is a certain age
doesn’t mean he or she fits a certain status quo.
Allow love to work its mysterious magic
if you find yourself having a special connection with someone who is older or
younger than you. Explore it and let it grow beautifully.
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